The Most Important Question I Ask Myself Every Birthday—and Why You Should Too

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This past week, I celebrated my birthday. And today, we’re also celebrating Mother’s Day here in the U.S.—a powerful time to honor life, love, and legacy. Whether you’re a mom yourself, hope to be one, or are surrounded by nurturing, wise women in your life, this day invites us all to reflect.

Reflect on how we show up.

Reflect on what we give and receive.

And reflect on the miracle of simply being here.

Because here’s the truth: your existence is a one-in-a-trillion miracle.

The chances of you being born—at this moment, in this body, in this time—are astronomical. Yet here you are. Breathing. Living. Loving.

And that deserves to be celebrated.

So often, we treat birthdays and milestones as checkboxes or afterthoughts. But what if we allowed them to be sacred pauses? Invitations to reflect, re-center, and give thanks for the extraordinary gift of being alive?

This year, what I realized isn’t that I’m lucky because of where or when I was born. I’m lucky because I’ve followed my curiosity. I’ve led with courage. I’ve dared to follow my dreams.

And every birthday, I ask myself the same question:

If I dropped dead today, did I live a life of meaning, joy, and intention?

And once again, the answer is yes.

Of course, I have more to do, more to give, more to experience. But if it all ended tomorrow, I’d know I lived a blessed life—one of impact, freedom, adventure, and love.

So now I ask you…

Are you waiting for “someday”? Or are you savoring the journey today?

Are you constantly “doing” for others, especially if you’re a mom, and forgetting to acknowledge how far you have come?

This week on The Courage to Be podcast, I’m trying something new—a fresh, more spontaneous format. In the spirit of celebration, reflection, and generosity, I’m also giving you a gift.

I’m giving away a 7-night, 8-day complimentary vacation (taxes and fees must be paid separately—just like when you redeem airline miles).

No catch. No gimmick. Just a heartfelt way to say thank you—for listening, for showing up, for being part of this journey.

Here’s how to enter:

Leave a review of The Courage To Be on Apple Podcasts.
Take a screenshot and send it to help.thecouragetobe@gmail.com That gets you one entry.
Want more chances to win? Comment on your favorite podcast episodes on YouTube and send screenshots—each one gets you another entry.

The winner will be drawn on the last Thursday of the month.

Could this be your sign?

Your moment to receive the rest, joy, and renewal you didn’t even realize you needed?

Maybe this vacation becomes your own sacred pause—or maybe you gift it to your mom, your wife, your best friend. Because sometimes, the greatest gift we can give ourselves or another is space to breathe and just be.

So as I celebrate another year of life—and as we celebrate the mothers who pour so much into others—I invite you to pause, reflect, and maybe even enter to receive something beautiful.

Because your life matters. Your journey matters. And you, dear one, are a miracle worth celebrating.

Big hugs,

Tania

P.S. You can listen to this week’s birthday episode of The Courage to Be right here.

Who knows what it might spark in your own journey?

To your success and abundance!

Tania