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When things don’t go as planned

Life has an uncanny way of throwing curveballs at us when we least expect it. We make plans, set goals, and dream big, only to find that things don't always go according to plan.

But what if, instead of getting discouraged or frustrated, we learned to embrace the unexpected and see it as an opportunity for growth and adventure?

Today I share how life's detours can lead to incredible experiences.

The Story of the 5th & 6th Grader Trip:

Picture this: my daughter was excited about a school trip, a grand adventure for 5th and 6th graders. She was determined to go, even though she was only in 4th grade. The requirement was that she had to be 10 years old by the time of the trip, and she would qualify. She turned 10 the week before the trip so she thought she would qualify. However, navigating the path to this trip wasn't as straightforward as we thought.

Meetings with the teacher took place, and the roller coaster of uncertainty began. At first, the teacher said yes, then no, and then maybe. Just when we thought it was all settled with a no, let's wait until next year my daughter felt that this was unfair and that the teacher did not keep her word because she was allowing other 10 year olds to go. The week before the trip she was so upset that one of her friends that was 10 and in 4th grade got to go. She kept complaining to us about how this was not fair, she had a point but I couldn’t continue arguing with the teacher, she had made the rules and the final answer at parent teacher conference was “Lets wait until next year.” We had her write down why she felt it was unfair and once she had it in writing go to the teacher –who is also the principal of the school and half the kids are intimidated by her — sit down face to face and speak to her about what she didn’t find right or just.

The teacher finally agreed for her to go 5 days before the trip. But life, in its mysterious ways, had more twists in store.

The Day of the Trip:

On the long-awaited day of the trip, my daughter woke up with a raspy voice. Oh no! Was she getting sick? The excitement that had filled her heart was now overshadowed by a tinge of disappointment. It seemed like all the twists and turns had led to this very moment. But how would we react? Would she let this unforeseen circumstance dampen her spirits? Would we get a call on the 2nd or 3rd day to come and pick her up 5 hours away? Would she be able to endure all the obstacle courses, hikes and physical activities?

The Power of Having a Vision and Making Decisions:

Amidst the ups and downs of the trip's planning, my daughter demonstrated the power of having a vision and making decisions. She was determined to go, and she took action by making necklaces and raising money to fund part of her trip. Her unwavering commitment to her vision inspired me. It reminded me that when we have a clear vision and make decisive choices, we can overcome obstacles that arise along the way.

Staying Committed Through Tough Times:

Life is not always smooth sailing. Obstacles and challenges will inevitably show up on our journey. However, it is during these tough times that our commitment is truly tested. My daughter's experience taught us the importance of staying committed to our decisions, even when the going gets tough. She sat down with the principal to express her thoughts, concerns, agreements and advocate for herself where she felt that the teacher went wrong. She showed her unwavering commitment to the trip she had envisioned.

Attachment to Outcomes:

We often attach ourselves to specific outcomes, labeling them as good or bad, lucky or unlucky. However, the truth is that very few events can be fully judged at the time they occur. Only time can reveal the whole story. By releasing our attachment to outcomes, we open ourselves up to the magic of life's surprises.

Speaking of unexpected journeys and things not going to plan, let me share an inspiring story from this week's episode of The Courage To Be™ Podcast. I had the privilege of interviewing Rikki Quintana, an Ivy League retired lawyer and dear client who had envisioned a retirement filled with travel and relaxation. However, life had other plans for her. Instead, she found herself starting a business representing over 100 artists in Central Asia.

Rikki's story beautifully encapsulates the notion that detours can lead us to unforeseen opportunities. She embraced the unexpected twists and turns, allowing her passion for art and culture to flourish in ways she could never have imagined. Rikki's courage to embrace change serves as a powerful reminder for all of us to remain open to new paths.

Life's journey is full of surprises, and plans are merely guideposts along the way.

We must learn to embrace the unexpected, for it is in these detours that we find growth, resilience, and incredible adventures. So, the next time life takes you on a different route, remember my daughter's trip and Rikki Quintana's inspiring story. Stay flexible, be determined, and keep your heart open to the wonders that await. After all, the greatest stories are often written on the pages of life's unexpected chapters.

Anything NOT gone according to plan for you recently? Please comment below and share with me. To your success and abundance!


PS: If you missed our last quarter’s Connections with Intention gathering, make sure to register for the summer one, it’s coming up on June 2nd from 11:30-1pm EST.

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